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<title>Telling Kids About Divorce: Trusted Family Guidance from Attorney David Mejias</title>
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<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; line-height: 115%;"><span style="mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: EN-IN;">Children feel anything that changes in the house, even when you hide it from them. They are not supposed to understand why the parents fight or why things are different, but they become aware when things are not the same. Talking about a divorce makes it probably the most emotional but important conversation you will ever have.</span><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: 'Times New Roman',serif; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: EN-IN;"><p></p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; line-height: 115%;"><span style="mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: EN-IN;">You want to be honest with them, but not brutal. You want to prepare them but not overwhelm them. These four tips will allow you to handle that moment with love and grace.</span><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: 'Times New Roman',serif; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: EN-IN;"><p></p></span></p>
<p style="color: black; text-align: justify; line-height: 115%; mso-list: l3 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list 36.0pt; vertical-align: baseline;"><b><span style="mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: EN-IN;">1.Tell Them Together and Stay Calm</span></b><span style="mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: EN-IN;"><p></p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; line-height: 115%;"><span style="mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: EN-IN;">Kids feel safest when both parents talk to them simultaneously. It symbolizes togetherness, even in separation. Find a calm room that has no distractions and sit together. Use words that are easier and simpler to understand for your kid, and do not make mistakes when speaking.</span><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: 'Times New Roman',serif; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: EN-IN;"><p></p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; line-height: 115%;"><span style="mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: EN-IN;">Be coherent: "We are not staying married; however, we are still your parents, and both of us love you."</span><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: 'Times New Roman',serif; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: EN-IN;"><p></p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-left: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-indent: 0cm; line-height: 115%; mso-list: l1 level1 lfo2; vertical-align: baseline;"><!-- [if !supportLists]--><strong><span style="mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: EN-IN;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">2. </span></span><span style="mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: EN-IN;">Stay Truthful But Consider Age</span></strong><span style="mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: EN-IN;"><p></p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; line-height: 115%;"><span style="mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: EN-IN;">You are not obliged to give all legal or emotional details. Children have to be told the truth that they can cope with. Young children need a word of confirmation, such as where they are going to stay, and who will be taking care of them. More serious questions will be asked by teens, and you will have to answer them without being hostile and demeaning to the other parent.</span><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: 'Times New Roman',serif; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: EN-IN;"><p></p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; line-height: 115%;"><span style="mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: EN-IN; mso-bidi-font-weight: bold;">Dave Mejias</span><span style="mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: EN-IN;"> has dealt with numerous families in transition. He urges parents to be honest without creating stress. Children cope with truth more than with confusion, particularly when spoken from the heart.</span><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: 'Times New Roman',serif; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: EN-IN;"><p></p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-left: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-indent: 0cm; line-height: 115%; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo3; vertical-align: baseline;"><!-- [if !supportLists]--><strong><span style="mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: EN-IN;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">3. </span></span><span style="mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: EN-IN;">Create Room for Their Emotions</span></strong><span style="mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: EN-IN;"><p></p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; line-height: 115%;"><span style="mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: EN-IN;">Your child might cry, remain silent, inquire, or respond with anger. Let nothing stop them from the way they are feeling. Accept their emotions and never try to solve all the problems at one time. It is a procedure, and the way you react to it today will determine how they will cope with the change.</span><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: 'Times New Roman',serif; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: EN-IN;"><p></p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; line-height: 115%;"><span style="mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: EN-IN;">With time, routine care, honest updates, and emotional support, children can adjust. <b><a href="https://vimeo.com/davemejias" rel="nofollow">David Mejias</a></b> reminds parents repeatedly that children don't require perfect explanations; they require present, stable parents who listen and respond with compassion.</span><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: 'Times New Roman',serif; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: EN-IN;"><p></p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-left: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-indent: 0cm; line-height: 115%; mso-list: l2 level1 lfo4; vertical-align: baseline;"><!-- [if !supportLists]--><strong><span style="mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: EN-IN;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">4. </span></span><span style="mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: EN-IN;">Maintain the Message Consistent and Ongoing</span></strong><span style="mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: EN-IN;"><p></p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; line-height: 115%;"><span style="mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: EN-IN;">One talk wont be enough. Youll need to check in with your kids as the separation progresses. Stick to your original message. Do not introduce them to new stories that will confuse or oppose other previous explanations.</span><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: 'Times New Roman',serif; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: EN-IN;"><p></p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; line-height: 115%;"><span style="mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: EN-IN;">Inform their teachers and caregivers of the change to give additional support. Make things comfortable and do not change their routine instantly.</span><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: 'Times New Roman',serif; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: EN-IN;"><p></p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; line-height: 115%;"><span style="mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: EN-IN;">We have found that when parents are still close and on the same track, kids cope better, even when anger levels are high among the adults.</span><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: 'Times New Roman',serif; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: EN-IN;"><p></p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; line-height: 115%;"><b><span style="mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: EN-IN;">Support Through Legal and Emotional Clarity</span></b><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: 'Times New Roman',serif; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: EN-IN;"><p></p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; line-height: 115%;"><span style="mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: EN-IN;">Divorce is not just about a few legal documents. It's about human beings, most of all, children, who require guidance, patience, and stability. That's why legal guidance from lawyers like <span style="mso-bidi-font-weight: bold;">David Mejias</span> is important.</span><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: 'Times New Roman',serif; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: EN-IN;"><p></p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; line-height: 115%;"><span style="mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: EN-IN; mso-bidi-font-weight: bold;">Dave Mejias<b> </b></span><span style="mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: EN-IN;">does not just accept family law cases, but he is also supportive in a way that enables him to handle families with great care. He is aware that in any situation, there is a child who is in need of peace and parents who are willing to do the correct thing.</span><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: 'Times New Roman',serif; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: EN-IN;"><p></p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; line-height: 115%;"><span style="mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: EN-IN;">When you are cautious on the legal or emotional side of divorce, you will take care of both the well-being of your child and of your rights.</span><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: 'Times New Roman',serif; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: EN-IN;"><p></p></span></p>]]> </content:encoded>
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